Still haven't found an answer to my problem.
Whichever way I initiate a vnc viewer to remote control my server, the new window that is meant to open.. DOESN'T.
If I go to terminal and 'vncviewer ip.of.server' it goes through all the right words in the terminal as if the new window had popped open, but it doesn't!
Same if I try tsclient or tightvncjava, which I go to thru web page.
Please can someone suggest something?