I (creator of this post) found the solution I need on my own!
I will now explain the solution for anybody else who is in a similar situation and needs this help!
SOLUTION:
INSTALL THE NVIDIA DRIVER VIA THE RUNFILE PROVIDED AT http://www.nvidia.com/object/unix.html WITH THE FLAG "--no-opengl-files" !!
This prevents not only the nvidia opengl files from overwriting the existing mesa files but also installs the driver without nvidia prime!!
So all of my problems are solved, simply by installing the driver manually, instead of installing it from the repositories. The package from the repositories is "Optimus-Friendly" and therefore has all the useless troublemakers bundled with it.
SECONDLY
the xorg.conf has to be extended with another screen for the dedicated GPU(s) so that it/they has/have entries in nvidia-settings.
mine looks like this
Code:
Section "ServerLayout"
Identifier "Layout0"
Screen 0 "intel" 0 0
Screen 1 "nvidia550ti" 3000 0
EndSection
Section "Device"
Identifier "intel"
Driver "intel"
BusID "PCI:0@0:2:0"
EndSection
Section "Device"
Identifier "nvidia550ti"
Driver "nvidia"
BoardName "GeForce GTX 550ti"
BusID "PCI:2@0:0:0"
EndSection
Section "Screen"
Identifier "intel"
Device "intel"
EndSection
Section "Screen"
Identifier "nvidia550ti"
Device "nvidia550ti"
Option "AllowEmptyInitialConfiguration" "on"
Option "Coolbits" "4"
Option "ConstrainCursor" "on"
EndSection