Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

[greatsirkain]

Girl trouble and you post in a linux forum?

Got my heart broken 3 years ago, still think about her all the time, still hurts. It's like all loss, it doesn't get any easier but you evolve and adapt so that you can function normaly again and it doesn't destroy you inside anymore then you will eventually find someone who loves you back because if she doesn't love you back then she was never worth it to begin with.

Feel like I should leave a final thought or something

*goes to read CharlesA's 'getting over her' link*
"Unless you’re one of those types that believes in things like destiny and magical thinking, in which case none of this will be helpful."
...I'm out.
*goes to wallow while listening to leonard cohen*

[QIII]

When you are older and the hair you have left is gray, you will have forgotten her name.

But you will probably remember having brought up your girl problems on a computer geek forum.

Whether you will laugh about it or be embarrassed about it remains to be seen...

[anaconda]

2. there are almost 2 women for each man. so i should just relax as eventually i will find a still single soulmate that would like me back.

What? Where?
Men outnumber women in most places. Except with people that are really old because woman live longer..


To the OP.
It took me a long time to understand, but it is as Osho says.
Love is a positive feeling
When you love it is beneficial to you. If you love you will enjoy. Love is such a beautiful phenomenon.
You don't have to "own" or "get" the other person.

When you get older you will understand...

[lisati]

"Love" has many facets. Sometimes it's what you feel, sometimes it's what you do, and sometimes it's something else again.

Don't give up when what you feel takes a nose dive: it took me 30 years to meet and notice Mrs Lisati, and 20 years later, in spite of (because of?) encountering a number of potholes on the journey, we're still together.

[anaconda]

Girl trouble and you post in a linux forum?

Got my heart broken 3 years ago, still think about her all the time, still hurts. It's like all loss, it doesn't get any easier but you evolve and adapt so that you can function normaly again and it doesn't destroy you inside anymore then you will eventually find someone who loves you back because if she doesn't love you back then she was never worth it to begin with.

Its all about the point of view.
About 3 years ago I was also badly in love. She didn't like me "that" way.
But she was nice about it.
Nothing much happened, but the little niceness I got is still one of the best memories I ever got. Still get a good warm feeling and a smile on my face when I think about it.

Funny thing is that if I had been 10 years younger I probably wouldn't have been able to see the niceness and would only have seen the fact that she didn't like me "that" way and that I could not have her...

And LOL. Linux forums may not be the best place to ask help for girl problems. Unless they are about dealing with not getting the girl.
With hints about how to get a girl I would google David Deangelo....

[CharlesA]

"Love" has many facets. Sometimes it's what you feel, sometimes it's what you do, and sometimes it's something else again.

Don't give up when what you feel takes a nose dive: it took me 30 years to meet and notice Mrs Lisati, and 20 years later, in spite of (because of?) encountering a number of potholes on the journey, we're still together.

You pretty much nailed it.

[soloman469]

Ok so I have just one more problem. What if I somehow p.i.s.s her off (excuse my language) and she tells my good friend? Could he not be my friend anymore afterwards?

Overall though, wow guys, this was all really deep and helpful, I can already feel myself coming back together. Thank you all for your kind help, it has helped me so much. I guess a lot can happen in just two days right? ;D

And as the TF2 Spy always says: Well, now the moment has passed, BACK TO WORK!

[mikodo]

When you are older and the hair you have left is gray, you will have forgotten her name.

But you will probably remember having brought up your girl problems on a computer geek forum.

Whether you will laugh about it or be embarrassed about it remains to be seen...

^^ Really!

Keep it up!!! I believe you, that it is hard now. Talking about it is a huge step, which is a healthy way to dispel negative emotions and allow one to move on. That you chose, to do this on a Linux forum is priceless. You know you are a geek when ... Lol. Be thankful it wasn't a divorce with kids involved. That really bites.


Warm regards.

;p

[PJs Ronin]

Young man... stop wondering about all the 'what ifs' that may come your way; that only leads to an ulcer. Let what's in the past be in the past and get on with enjoying your life. If these friends are true friends they will stick with you no matter what. Go do something different (take a tandem parachute jump or visit an art gallery) and let time pass. Life is good, real good... go grab yourself some.

[llanitedave]

Some day you'll be saying something like this to someone who's actually right for you:

Looking back from where I stand tonight
I wouldn't change a thing about my life
Wrong turns I had to take back in those crazy years
Could not have been mistakes if they brought me here

'Cause all my roads have led me to
This night, this love I share with you
And though the road was never smooth
Life has made me someone who
Could be the right someone for you

I don't regret a single broken heart
That taught me what love is and what it's not
Someone must have planned our two paths would cross
I couldn't see it then but I was never lost

'Cause all my roads have led me to
This night, this love I share with you
And though the road was never smooth
Life has made me someone who
Could be the right someone for you

Detours, dead ends, endless explorations
You were my only destination

'Cause all my roads have led me to
This night, this love I share with you
And though the road was never smooth
Life has made me someone who
Could be the right someone for you


(Karen Taylor-Good/Annette Cotter)