If you want to change the default Totem (Movie Player) then just go in a terminal
Highlight Sound & Video, on the r. side right click on Movie Player -> properties and change the command to
If you want to leave the default Movie Player alone and create a 2nd 'instance', then
totem --toggle-controls %U
cp /usr/share/applications/totem.desktop ~/.local/share/applications/totem-noshow.desktop
When the file opens change the line Exec=totem %U to the above one.
Edit the line Name=Movie Player to whatever name you wish, then save.
The 2nd 'totem' will show up in your Applications menu with name you picked and run without controls
Ex. (name it whatever you wish
Name=Movie Player 1
Comment=Play movies and songs
Exec=totem --toggle-controls %U