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    Helper burnout?

    I see people who have problems, and I can understand a degree of frustration. I've been there myself.

    I'm happy to help people, but my time and energy, like everyone's, is limited.

    So, when I see messages that includes things like "as soon as I get xyz sorted, I'm leaving" or "I don't know whether I should keep on using this &^%()& or go back to windows", I feel less motivated.

    If I'm going to help someone, in any of life's activities, I want to know if there's some level of commitment to begin with. Uncertainty on the part of the poster about staying doesn't give me that impression. Disparaging remarks about Ubuntu, Canonical, the devs and the world of Linux don't motivate me, either.

    I prefer to work with people who have decided to give it a good shot, and who can keep generalised negativity out of their posts. Tone makes a big difference to me.

    Maybe it's just me, I'm not sure. Perhaps I'm simply tired and confused and naive.

    Am I the only one?
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    I know how you feel.

    Even if my knowledge of Linux is not all that great, I do try to help out. It gets annoying when you are trying to help someone and they aren't even trying to help you help them.
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    Things like "I'm going to go back to Windows" are manipulation attempts made by people of questionable maturity. This kind of thing always worked on mommy, and daddy, so naturally they will attempt to use this method on others as well. The only way to break them of this habit is to not give them what they want.
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    Does a swift kick in the butt work too?

    *runs*
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    You have a point, Swoll. It's said that a common attribute of a mother is a well-developed sense of guilt.
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    made by people of questionable maturity
    there are a lot of young people (kids, teens) on this forum.
    It would be interesting to know the age demographic frequency statistic of those who post sorted by age in raw numbers

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    Re: Helper burnout?

    Let's not get too bogged down in age statistics. Age does not equal maturity, unfortunately. There are plenty of cranky older people whom I've met in real life, and I'm sure some of them would find their way here as well.

    Nor is politeness confined to the older age group. I had the pleasure of helping someone with a fairly major problem who was so appreciative that I got a thank-you PM. And, no, they weren't in my age group (I have adult sons).
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    New releases bring new problems. I like to hang back and let the dust settle a little. It can be overwhelming. I'm thinking that future releases should be quiet rollouts. There's no reason that the servers should be slammed. Once you have a working distro, stick with it for a while. Those that upgrade without testing with the Live CD first can expect problems.

    Experienced users keep a working linux partition and put the upgrade on a new partition. When things don't work, you can always boot into your existing (and presumably working) distro.

    As far as criticism, "Ubuntu was my idea." Except for the button placement. Who's lame idea was that?
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    good thread, well said.

    I am not able to help too much around here yet,
    so Ive not much to say in that regard...

    But i do know, and feel exactly what you are talking about Irihapeti.

    swoll.. i agree,
    definitely.

    it's like.. " uhpp, if you cant fix this for me, then i will punish YOU, and not use it!!"
    punishing only themselves,
    while pretending they are punishing you by not using/doing something that will only benefit them.

    funny humans we are. lol

    thanks for the thread,
    i think it was needed.

    and thanks again for all your help! <3
    and everyone else who helps soo much..
    you all rock. many thanks!
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    Re: Helper burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by Irihapeti View Post
    Let's not get too bogged down in age statistics.
    True. There are many users of younger age and smaller post count than myself who are better able to answer many of the questions.
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