koenn, I wholeheartedly agree with you. Logic is of no use here. Mikodo either needs to decide it is not worth the energy and effort to do anything and there may be nothing to do anyway, or he needs to use some very serious psychology. She needs to decide to stop playing the lottery and she is not going to decide that by his arguing or discussing or using logic. The reason I mentioned Dreikers to him is his idea of 'logical consequences' seems to work for all ages in most any situation.
By the way, mikodo, if you think my idea is at least worth checking out, I did check Amazon and the book is available. http://www.amazon.com/Children-Chall.../dp/0452266556. Just be careful about leaving it lying around. She may pick it up and use it's ideas on you, too! Seriously, although it is a book about raising children, it works equally well for adults. I've seen it.
The comparison case is still valid, though. mikodo is winning $40 more per lottery than his wife is. That could be compared over any arbitrary length of time.
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That $40/month is a mighty number. Show her how many shoes she could've bought with that $40 by not participating in the lottery for 10 years.
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My wife buys shoes and jewellery and stuff I don't see any value in, I buy records and gadgets and stuff that she can't see the value in. So long as the lottery ticket purchases are not more than you can afford, let her have some fun
How about telling her that she's allowed to spend $10 of your money per week on the lottery, but she's allowed to spend $30 per week of her own money, on the lottery.
The only way she can spend $40 per week on the lottery is by getting a job - she she'll be bringing in more than $40 a week if she got a part-time job. Win!
I try to treat the cause, not the symptom. I avoid the terminal in instructions, unless it's easier or necessary. My instructions will work within the Ubuntu system, instead of breaking or subverting it. Those are the three guarantees to the helpee.
Sometimes it's about the consequences. If the consequences of not playing the lottery are more desirable (to her) than playing it, she'll stop playing.
Please, people, remember to BACKUP before you install that new system. Same if you're upgrading.