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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    Just do things that make you happy. Whether it is dog walking, tree climbing, swimming etc. go and enjoy yourself. People (girls) are attracted to confident, happy people. You are young, make the most of it.

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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    Ask yourself this question, "Do you think she's worth fighting for?" If you answer yes, then fight for her, but if you are unsure or say no, then move on. Women are abundant, and can be replaced in almost the same fashion as underwear.

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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    Is it alright if I be friends with her? She only wants to be friends...
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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    I see, so you got friend zoned. Well, you could just be friends, but I wouldn't recommend that. The last girl I tried to "just be friends" with turned out to be a total witch who was just using me to get marijuana. It's better to just move on and find another girl, or else you'll just get hurt.

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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    You can't be friends with her.
    Because you want more from her. So in a way, every interaction from her side towards you will be influenced by your feelings and everything you do towards her will have an agenda.

    It's just better to move on all together.
    I mean, you don't need to tell her to GFTO or something but just let her fade into the pages of history
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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    Losing somebody who you liked, can really hurt. It can hurt for a long time.

    For her to now be going out with your friend - every time you see your friend you'll see her (unless they break up) - that's really really tough.

    You just need to keep looking, because funnily enough you will find somebody who wants you as much as you want them. I know you are thinking "Well I won't, because I'm not attractive" - well, I'm not attractive and I found another girl who I liked and now I love!

    I still think about the girl who I liked the most, who didn't like me as more than a friend. Earlier this year I had a dream about her where we were together. I still wonder about what would have been. However, it's very possible that you and her didn't end off together because the guy upstairs knew it couldn't work. The girl I liked the most moved across the country and I could never have moved away from home with her, so it's better that it never happened.
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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    Quote Originally Posted by 3rdalbum View Post
    Losing somebody who you liked, can really hurt. It can hurt for a long time.

    For her to now be going out with your friend - every time you see your friend you'll see her (unless they break up) - that's really really tough.

    You just need to keep looking, because funnily enough you will find somebody who wants you as much as you want them. I know you are thinking "Well I won't, because I'm not attractive" - well, I'm not attractive and I found another girl who I liked and now I love!

    I still think about the girl who I liked the most, who didn't like me as more than a friend. Earlier this year I had a dream about her where we were together. I still wonder about what would have been. However, it's very possible that you and her didn't end off together because the guy upstairs knew it couldn't work. The girl I liked the most moved across the country and I could never have moved away from home with her, so it's better that it never happened.
    I say just cut her loose.

    How much did you hang out with this girl before, OP? If you hardly ever did and weren't that great of friends, then she probably friend zoned you because she didn't like you. It sucks, I know, but it gives you a free ticket to be a jerk to her. Don't push her around or call her names or anything like that, but constantly put out the negative vibe when you're around her. It might seem like a cold-hearted method, but it feels good. But it's totally up to you dude, don't let anyone force you to do anything, just don't let this girl step on you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fontis View Post
    I know it's really hard to disrupt ones habits, because we all like familiarity. It's safe. It's known. But man, go out there into the unknown. Keep an open mind to the world and when you least expect it - at the most obscure moment - you will find someone who fits you like a glove.
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    There will be countless more opportunities that come about, some of which may be out of left field with zero warning. Don't get hung up on something like this. The sea is big my friend.
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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    Quote Originally Posted by montag dp View Post
    In my opinion, the best things you can do are as follows:

    1) Stop thinking about her and realize there are plenty of other girls out there. 3-4 months may seem like a long time to invest emotionally, but in the grand scheme of things it's really not. Move on to other people, do other things to keep busy, and don't let this get in the way of friendships.
    2) Learn from this experience. Next time you like someone as much as you apparently liked this girl, ask her out. Being rejected feels a lot better than what you are experiencing now, because it brings closure, and the next time it won't be as big a deal.
    Indeed..

    One other thing I can offer as advice, is to be more forward when talking to girls. Ladies like men who are man enough to show them a good time and take control. At least most.. I cant tell you how many girls I could have went out with growing up if I would just had man'd up and ask them out and not been a scared little kid. Not saying your a kid mind you, but I was at one time. Age teaches you a lot, but unfortunately it shows you mostly "woulda, shoulda, coulda's" in life.. But hey like stated above, there are many ladies on this planet. Be polite, forward and dont forget to smile when you ask them, if they say no. Mark the gal off the list and move to the next one..
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    Re: Girl Troubles IRL... -.-

    OP, your situation arose cos you didn't make the move fast enough. Learn from this: if you like someone, go tell her! The worst that could happen is she laughs at you and says "No way!" And that ain't really likely to happen, either your love interest will say "I like you too" or "I don't like you that way, I see you more as a friend blah blah blah."

    So, make your move, tell the person in question how you feel. If she's into it, cool. If not, that's still cool, you'll meet someone else so long as you don't hide away in your bedroom crying over a photo or whatever. Everyone wants someone. And there will be cases where that someone is you! So don't ask a bunch of geeks like us how to catch a lover, just go do it! Go get 'em Tiger, as Mary Jane would say to Peter...
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