Well i ended up jumping back down to 12.04 last night. I only need that computer to do 1 thing...Play videos online. For what ever reason 13.04 did not want to do that or at least not well. I was having issues with flash being glitchy and I had to steal the divx plugin from my desktop (with normal 13.04) to get divx to play but it was laggy. once I put 12.04 back on all those issues went away.
The way I see it is I have until october to come up with a new solution and by then. Besides i have been thinking of buying a raspbean PI since it will run XMBC and this old laptop wont.