Re: need big time help to figure out how to setup outbound mail on my home server
if you could tell us which mail server your are running this would be a start. it is not that hard.
from the sounds of it you are using existing email address and you want to receive and send email.
you may not need a mail server to do this just use the hosting or (shaw) as your mail server and just set up a mail program like Thunderbird.
regarding getting your mail from wordpress depending on what is in stalled on your server just login
and type it should prompt you to read it.
running ubuntu servers, 12.04.3 lts and Pfsense 2.1,
web hosting and email hosting with 2 ubuntu clients
uberstudent on laptop
and 3 networked printers