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wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 07:24 AM
I'm not. Never been and old. (no kids either)
http://www.blogcdn.com/www.dailyfinance.com/media/2008/08/smiley-face.jpg

codemaniac
May 12th, 2012, 07:25 AM
It is the biggest smiling face i have ever seen !!!!

Face-Ache
May 12th, 2012, 07:30 AM
Together 14 years, married for 4. No kids, and no intention of having them either :)

wilee-nilee
May 12th, 2012, 07:31 AM
I'm not. Never been and old. (no kids either)
http://www.blogcdn.com/www.dailyfinance.com/media/2008/08/smiley-face.jpg

Same here. :p

Mikeb85
May 12th, 2012, 07:32 AM
Been married for just over a month. :)

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 07:40 AM
Been married for just over a month. :)

Details? Sort of, if you know what I mean. I take it it's perfect, otherwise you wouldn't have married.

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 07:41 AM
Been married for just over a month. :)

I wish you the best of luck! Congrats!

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 07:44 AM
Together 14 years, married for 4. No kids, and no intention of having them either :)

I noticed the "no kids" thing. It's a personal choice. :guitar:

lisati
May 12th, 2012, 07:46 AM
In November 2012, it will be 20 years since we made it official. Before that, Mrs Lisati and myself had only known each other about 6 months. A healthy sense of humour is a great asset!

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 07:54 AM
In November 2012, it will be 20 years since we made it official. Before that, Mrs Lisati and myself had only known each other about 6 months. A healthy sense of humour is a great asset!

Wow, that's some great insight. I mean, c'mon it's hard to know everyone. 20 years? God bless ya. I know things are tough internally.

not found
May 12th, 2012, 08:18 AM
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_PZOsEmYgZyI/TNvgyd5SQ3I/AAAAAAAAAuA/FcrIX2pmfKI/s1600/waynes-world_l.jpg
"Garth, marriage is punishment for shoplifting in some countries."



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KiwiNZ
May 12th, 2012, 08:26 AM
Very happily married for a very long time. My wife I'd my best friend, the rock that supports me, my main mentor, my soul mate.

The Real Prometheus
May 12th, 2012, 08:40 AM
I am currently not married but I have been dating my girlfriend for a long time. Whenever grad school is over for me and she finishes pharmacy school there is a good chance The Real Prometheus will be off the market. Sorry ladies:lolflag:

Gone fishing
May 12th, 2012, 08:58 AM
Married since 1988 - 3 Children.

Happy married :)

sanderella
May 12th, 2012, 09:37 AM
35 years next October. Happy! :KS

s.fox
May 12th, 2012, 09:41 AM
No, but I came very close once though :|

Prescilla
May 12th, 2012, 09:48 AM
No and I don't think I'll ever get married :cry:

Face-Ache
May 12th, 2012, 09:49 AM
I noticed the "no kids" thing. It's a personal choice. :guitar:

It's certainly not that we don't like kids. My wife is the youngest of 7 siblings, so we have something like 24 nieces and nephews. We borrow them from time to time, have fun, do kid stuff, and then pack them off back home when they start getting all ratty and irritable. Works great.

I'm proud of the fact that i've never changed a nappy/diaper in my life! :)

We've never really been a 'normal' married couple. Our wedding was 'Hell' themed - we had it catered by a pizza company here in New Zealand called Hell Pizza. Had contortionists and midgets dressed up as little devils and fire-breathers all wandering around. We got married at home, and used crepe paper to basically cover all the walls black. Changed all the light-bulbs for red ones.

It was seriously nuts. Was a surprise wedding too - sooo many shocked relatives. Dead funny.

chamber
May 12th, 2012, 09:55 AM
Married 3 years this September, 1 daughter. Blissfully happy and wouldn't change anything.

markbl
May 12th, 2012, 10:11 AM
Married 11 years to a gem of a wife. 2 great kids.

Totally respect the decision of anybody not to have kids though. There are enough of us on this planet!

terrykiwi83
May 12th, 2012, 10:36 AM
Married 7 years and 2 kids. They keep me busy, and have caused much stress. But all worth it!

phrak
May 12th, 2012, 01:54 PM
I've been married for 7 years... 2 kids...


it's felt like 7 minutes............ underwater.

sharathpaps
May 12th, 2012, 02:56 PM
I was married in November 2011. We stayed together for 3 hellish weeks. The process of separation is now sub judice. :-(

Easy Limits
May 12th, 2012, 03:16 PM
7 years, one kid.

georgelappies
May 12th, 2012, 03:18 PM
Married on 18 February this year. If I knew it would have been this much fun I would have gotten married long ago :D

Bandit
May 12th, 2012, 04:03 PM
Will be married 7 years come the 19th of this month. Got one daughter that is 6.

Guitar John
May 12th, 2012, 04:19 PM
Married 27 years

No kids :mrgreen:

One dog

Three Harleys 8-)


Three guitars :guitar: <<<<<<< not that guy, none of them are electric

Three laptops (all Ubuntu)



I think I see a pattern emerging :-k

oldos2er
May 12th, 2012, 05:04 PM
30 years.

Uncle Spellbinder
May 12th, 2012, 06:26 PM
10 years, August 9th.

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 06:29 PM
Married on 18 February this year. If I knew it would have been this much fun I would have gotten married long ago :D

Seriously?

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 06:32 PM
1)Married 27 years

2)No kids :mrgreen:

3)One dog

4)Three Harleys 8-)


5)Three guitars :guitar: <<<<<<< not that guy, none of them are electric

6)Three laptops (all Ubuntu)



I think I see a pattern emerging :-k
Yeah, 5 out of 6 ain't bad. ;)

kohoutek1
May 12th, 2012, 06:39 PM
A: "My computer usage has been an issue in all of my marriages."

B: "Dude, get a life."

A: "I have a life. It's just that computers are part of it."

B: "So what did your 1st wife say about your time on the computer?"

A: "OK, she said, so you haven't had any girlfriends, but your computer is your mistress."

B: "So what do you think?"

A: "I got two computers...therefore..."

B: "You dawg..."

wolfen69
May 12th, 2012, 06:51 PM
A: "My computer usage has been an issue in all of my marriages."

B: "Dude, get a life."

A: "I have a life. It's just that computers are part of it."

B: "So what did your 1st wife say about your time on the computer?"

A: "OK, she said, so you haven't had any girlfriends, but your computer is your mistress."

B: "So what do you think?"

A: "I got two computers...therefore..."

B: "You dawg..."
At least you're honest.

Toz
May 12th, 2012, 07:39 PM
25 years this year, 3 amazing kids and a dog. Everyone but the dog runs a flavour of ubuntu (he prefers puppy linux). Taking Mrs Toz to the Mexican Riviera to celebrate in a month.

kelvin spratt
May 12th, 2012, 07:58 PM
Well I'm on my 3rd and last marriage
13 years 1st + 1 house 3 children
13 years 2nd + 1 house no children thank god
8 years present (gave her the 2 houses to save the paper work) 2 little boys I adore

David D.
May 12th, 2012, 08:17 PM
37 years married to a wonderful woman. We have two grown children and two grandchildren.

QIII
May 12th, 2012, 08:37 PM
All it took was buying one red rose and seeing a priest a very long time ago.

Kids are grown and gone, but sometimes new little feet patter on the floor.

My wife has been with me through thick and thin, sickness and health. She was there through wars and madness that threatened to take my mind. She is here still when a chronic disease that can not be cured, but only managed, threatens my life and often ruins my enjoyment of it anyway.

It's everyone's choice to be married or not, but I must say that I am sad for those who have either chosen or not had the good fortune to find an eternal love, whoever that may be.

VTPoet
May 12th, 2012, 08:56 PM
Well... hard to answer... Do you mean, like, married to a man or woman? -- or, maybe, married to Beer, Sports, KREF Speakers, Dungeons & Dragons... what are we talking about? ;)

eriktheblu
May 12th, 2012, 09:27 PM
I've been married 10 1/2 years.

My wife has been married 5 1/4.

Bandit
May 12th, 2012, 10:24 PM
Seriously?

LOL I wasnt going to say anything. But you let the cat out of the bag.. :lolflag:

Duncan J Murray
May 13th, 2012, 01:45 AM
8.5 months happily married. Maybe one on the way.

marsdend
May 13th, 2012, 02:21 AM
Been together 5 Years, Civil Partnered for 3 Years this year! How time flies lol

chili555
May 13th, 2012, 02:45 AM
26 years as of few days ago. If I am lucky, I hope I get at least 26 more! Three children, three grandchildren and ...gulp... one great-grandson!

llanitedave
May 13th, 2012, 05:09 AM
Going on 10 years. It's the best thing I've ever done, and she's the best thing that ever happened to me. No kids from this one, but I had 4 from the first, which was the worst thing I ever did, with someone who was the worst thing to ever happen to me. Except for the kids, of course. They're pretty cool. All grown now.

Technoviking
May 13th, 2012, 05:37 AM
20 year this February.

T-V

uRock
May 13th, 2012, 06:10 AM
10 years this July:P

Megaptera
May 13th, 2012, 08:04 AM
Met the future Mrs.Megaptera in Feb '88 - married Apr '90 so that's 22 yrs married.
Two kids (14 & 12) so we had some kid free years before becoming grown-ups ourselves!

xtremo
May 13th, 2012, 12:48 PM
First wife 7 years, second wife 25 years!

stalkingwolf
May 13th, 2012, 04:35 PM
Sept. will be 32 years. we met on July 4th and were married on sept 27th. I wouldnt trade her for 10 others. WE got married outside under a full moon in the middle of nowhere the music provided by the 8 track player in my truck and a piano.

anaconda
May 13th, 2012, 04:49 PM
9 years and counting.

Also no kids and not gonna have them.

Old_Grey_Wolf
May 13th, 2012, 05:03 PM
For 36 years.

djsroknrol
May 13th, 2012, 05:36 PM
Married 12 years this November....sometimes it seems like 120!...lol...1 daughter who is an aspiring singer/actor who is 10.

:popcorn:

chili555
May 13th, 2012, 06:22 PM
Sept. will be 32 years. we met on July 4th and were married on sept 27th. I wouldnt trade her for 10 others. WE got married outside under a full moon in the middle of nowhere the music provided by the 8 track player in my truck and a piano.Awesome! Hopefully you will find a working 8-track when it's time to renew in 18 years!

cprofitt
May 13th, 2012, 10:00 PM
I have been married for 23 years 4 months and 29 days...

wolfen69
May 14th, 2012, 04:54 AM
For 36 years.
Wow. I've never even had a girlfriend for 36 months. I think I made 36 days once or twice. ;) (I'm almost 50 btw)

lykwydchykyn
May 14th, 2012, 05:06 AM
13 years this month.
4 kids... number 5 on the way.

Paqman
May 14th, 2012, 08:02 AM
Just coming up on 3 years married and kid number two. If the wonders of ultrasound are to be believed we'll then have one of each flavour, so I think we'll stop there.

chickenPie4breakfast
May 14th, 2012, 09:12 AM
In 3rd relationship

Ist 10years long - partner died - not allowed to marry
2nd also 10 years - partner died in accident - yep bit spookey eh 2 partners die after 10years - again not allowed to marry so the legal stuff was a headache and relatives treat me like ****.
3rd and Current - at the moment together 11 years - now we can marry but he has children from previous marriage so we dont want to upset them.
Did I mention the reason I couldnt marry before was I am gay and it wasn't allowed then - luckily The U.K. is a bit more civilised now.

wirepuller134
May 14th, 2012, 11:56 AM
Met April 88, married July 88. 4 kids of our own, adopted 2, fostered 38 others over the years. Only thing I would change is to meet my wife sooner.

desnaike
May 14th, 2012, 03:43 PM
30 years 2 daughters 2 grandsons.

knowledgequest
May 14th, 2012, 04:56 PM
Married, 10 years, 5 children, very happy.

Swagman
May 14th, 2012, 05:05 PM
Married 25 years come July 11th

Open to ideas for a pressie for erindoors.

Another way to look at it though is that a "life" prison sentence here is 18 years so I've served life plus seven

bruno9779
May 14th, 2012, 05:39 PM
I got married on the 08/08/08.
We weren't looking for any symbolism with that date, it was the only unscheduled day in August, I strongly suspect because it was the starting day of the Olympics.

I have 2 adorable boys, 6 months and 3 years old. They are the best thing that has ever happened in my life. Changing diapers is really not a big deal: washing my car is usually much messier.

I am doing alright with my wife, but sometimes I have a feeling that I will marry another woman in a decade or so.

Papi47
May 14th, 2012, 07:57 PM
It was 44 years in March. Thru good times and bad. 2 grown boys and 2 grandchildren. 1 of each. We are still happy together...

Roasted
May 15th, 2012, 05:18 AM
As of October 14th 2012, I'll have been married for one day. :guitar:

wolfen69
May 15th, 2012, 06:49 AM
:-kI see most people are married. Hmmmmm :-k

lisati
May 15th, 2012, 07:02 AM
"OK, she said, so you haven't had any girlfriends, but your computer is your mistress."


Now why does that sound familiar? :lolflag:

chugtairizwan
May 15th, 2012, 07:24 AM
NO i am not married and no have any plane of marriage in future:lolflag:

Irihapeti
May 15th, 2012, 07:54 AM
I'm not married now, but was for just over 10 years. (He died.)

It was a mixed experience - I'm not going to say more than that - and a good deal of that was own fault (or immaturity - it was a long time ago).

But the two sons I have are definitely a good thing, and just recently the new grandson.

KiwiNZ
May 15th, 2012, 08:03 AM
I'm not married now, but was for just over 10 years. (He died.)

It was a mixed experience - I'm not going to say more than that - and a good deal of that was own fault (or immaturity - it was a long time ago).

But the two sons I have are definitely a good thing, and just recently the new grandson.

Grand children are awesome, we have two

Irihapeti
May 15th, 2012, 08:50 AM
Grand children are awesome, we have two

Yes, indeed! I have to say that I didn't expect to be quite so emotional over the experience. :)

KiwiNZ
May 15th, 2012, 08:59 AM
Yes, indeed! I have to say that I didn't expect to be quite so emotional over the experience. :)

We have a grand daughter and a grandson, it is fantastic and yes when our first was born our grand daughter it was indeed emotional

briancb
May 15th, 2012, 09:40 AM
Hi, I have been married for 45 Years tomorrow, wonderful wife, to great children and two fantastic Grandchildren.

Megaptera
May 15th, 2012, 06:17 PM
As of October 14th 2012, I'll have been married for one day. :guitar:

Congratulations!:p

Megaptera
May 15th, 2012, 06:18 PM
Hi, I have been married for 45 Years tomorrow, wonderful wife, to great children and two fantastic Grandchildren.

That's fantastic - have a great day!! :p

wolfen69
May 15th, 2012, 06:22 PM
We have a grand daughter and a grandson, it is fantastic and yes when our first was born our grand daughter it was indeed emotional

You have emotions? ;)

I think of
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/4/4c/SpockVulcan.jpg
when I think of you.

ade234uk
May 15th, 2012, 10:04 PM
I got married a year and half a go. Best day of my life. Marriage is good. Even being married, one thing I cannot change is the choice of operating system on my wives computer lol.

KiwiNZ
May 15th, 2012, 10:08 PM
You have emotions? ;)

I think of
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/4/4c/SpockVulcan.jpg
when I think of you.

I thought most people saw me as one of these two....

bruno9779
May 16th, 2012, 05:02 PM
:-kI see most people are married. Hmmmmm :-k

I think that mostly married people is attracted to this thread, so the statistic is biased

dferriman
May 16th, 2012, 09:11 PM
8 years last month, 5 kids.

:guitar:

wojox
May 16th, 2012, 10:01 PM
Been together twelve years. We have a six year old little girl.
We need to get married soon.
It's :redface: when our daughter says "My Mom and Dad are boyfriend and girlfriend." :p

Dry Lips
May 16th, 2012, 10:16 PM
I thought most people saw me as one of these two....

[Off topic] Orange Darth Vader looks really good with the new forum theme ;) What's up with you and Darth Vader, btw? [/off topic]

KiwiNZ
May 16th, 2012, 10:50 PM
[Off topic] Orange Darth Vader looks really good with the new forum theme ;) What's up with you and Darth Vader, btw? [/off topic]

Simple, The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the force

ArtLaForge
May 17th, 2012, 01:59 AM
First marriage 30 years one son, ended with Cancer. Second 14 years so far children no possibility both fixed. ):P

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 05:42 AM
I'm not sure I conveyed this before, but, no marriages, no kids, never will. I don't have time for it. "I" means more than "we" to me. ):P

If you don't agree, that's OK. The 70% divorce rate speaks for itself.

KiwiNZ
May 18th, 2012, 06:05 AM
I'm not sure I conveyed this before, but, no marriages, no kids, never will. I don't have time for it. "I" means more than "we" to me. ):P

If you don't agree, that's OK. The 70% divorce rate speaks for itself.

70% divorce rate, hmmmm I don't think so

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 06:06 AM
70% divorce rate, hmmmm I don't think so

I guess it depends where you live.

BlinkinCat
May 18th, 2012, 06:12 AM
Divorced after a marriage of 23 years produced 2 remarkable children.

In my present circumstances I'm better off without it.

KiwiNZ
May 18th, 2012, 06:12 AM
I guess it depends where you live.

The US rate is no where near 70% ,its around 4 per 1000 persons

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 06:14 AM
Btw, statisics are all over the place, as you'll see by researching it. I've seen as high as 70%, and the lower %'s don't matter much.

The bottom line is, if YOU like being married, then that's all that matters.

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 06:16 AM
The US rate is no where near 70% ,its around 4 per 1000 persons

I see you're relying on typical online stats. There's NO WAY it's that low. Everyone I've met in my life has been divorced at least one time. Keep believing online stats.

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 06:24 AM
4 divorces per 1000 marriages in the US is lunacy. Wow. Think about it.

Edit: I see you said 4 out of 1000 persons, not marriages. Still way off. I work in the public, and most people I meet have been divorced.

Where these "stats" come from, I don't know.

KiwiNZ
May 18th, 2012, 06:26 AM
4 divorces per 1000 marriages in the US is lunacy. Wow. Think about it.

Not what I said.

KiwiNZ
May 18th, 2012, 06:28 AM
Source was US census

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 06:35 AM
Not what I said.

I revised my response. You can believe whatever you want. Just like how many people use ubuntu or mac, or windows. All I know is most people have been divorced at least one time in the US. I work at a public grocery store in the US.(and talk to a lot of people) Do you? Or are you just going to rely on what "big brother" tells you?

KiwiNZ
May 18th, 2012, 06:46 AM
On a positive note, my wife and I met when we were in our teens.

wolfen69
May 18th, 2012, 07:00 AM
On a positive note, my wife and I met when we were in our teens.

Is that inherently positive? ;)

wirepuller134
May 18th, 2012, 12:21 PM
Is that inherently positive? ;)

I would think so, my wife and I met in high school.

xcasex
May 18th, 2012, 01:26 PM
Well. I was married.
Marriage like much else demands good communication and being forthcoming to your partner.
Part of what I learned is that, these days, most people are so high strung on being "free" and "individuals" in their relationships, which by extension sabotages the relationship from the beginning.

Why?
The "WE" context, its easier to say "well she does this and that and i feel hurt because of it" and "well he doesnt do this and that and doesnt keep his promises" to which "but I didnt promise anything, i only said i'd look into it"

All of this self entitlement only leads down one way, and that's the toxic sludge of a wasteland between love and hate. this most often than not lead to spousal abuse by one or both of the partners.

Men and Women, communicate on different levels of context.

Instead of saying "we dont follow through and that makes us hurt one another, how can we solve this situation/rut we're in?" or something else in the same "we" context.

In a Marriage, "WE" is more important than "I".

This is something that in my experience is lost in personal relationships between partners, now you can write it off as immaturity or "not finding the right one" but the above is still valid no matter the level of maturity in partners.

(yes, group dynamics can be applied to relationships, no not everything can. but some of it)

Dry Lips
May 18th, 2012, 01:34 PM
The 70% divorce rate speaks for itself.



In 2002 (latest survey data as of 2012),[14] (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#cite_note-cdcmain-13) 29% of first marriages among women aged 1544 were disrupted (ended in separation, divorce or annulment) within 10 years.[15] (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#cite_note-dhhs05-14) Beyond the 10-year window, population survey data is lacking, but forecasts and estimates provide some understanding. It is commonly claimed that half of all marriages in the United States eventually end in divorce, an estimate possibly based on the fact that in any given year, the number of marriages is about twice the number of divorces.[16] (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#cite_note-truthorfiction-15) Using 1995 data, National Survey of Family Growth forecast in 2002 a 43% chance that first marriages among women aged 1544 would be disrupted within 15 years.[14] (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#cite_note-cdcmain-13) More recently, having spoken with academics and National Survey of Family Growth representatives, PolitiFact.com (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/PolitiFact.com) estimated in 2012 that the lifelong probability of a marriage ending in divorce is 40%50%.[17] (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#cite_note-16)
Divorce rates have been dropping during the last few decades. Data indicates that marriages have lasted longer in the 21st century than they did in the 1990s.[18] (https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#cite_note-17)

https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#Rates_of_divorce

War Tribe
October 12th, 2012, 05:53 PM
i'm actually divorced but wanted to chime in with my length of time. 15 years 25 days. 1 kid. happily divorced and getting back into the dating game slowly but surely. just taking my time getting back into it, no rush at all. i'm enjoying the single life. no pressures or worries right now. guys and gals, if you are thinking about popping the question to your partner to get married, make absolute certain that you're ready for the commitment. don't do it just out of need, or some kind of circumstance (she's pregnant, etc.). do take your time and date the person for a long time before you decide to get married to make sure you know enough about that person to be happy with them. sometimes divorce happens, you can't help it. but for the love of love, get married for the right reasons.