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NoaHall
November 2nd, 2009, 10:38 PM
Last Friday, my girlfriend and I were at Heathrow. We were sitting pretty near to a place where youngsters go to be looked after on flights(or something, I'm not sure what it is really). Anyway, we were sitting there, and we were kissing. Then a woman, who worked in the youngster flights thing, came over to us and said with a completely straight face "Could you stop kissing please, as there are children around and we don't want to...". I proceeded to inform her that there were no children around, nor had there been for the time we had sat there, and that seeing healthy, loving relationships are good for children. Now, what I want to know is, what did she mean by "and we don't want to..." and was she serious, or not?

t0p
November 2nd, 2009, 10:50 PM
I would imagine that she was completely serious. She thought that "we shouldn't" encourage children to do nasty things like love each other. Where children are concerned, anything that could possibly be construed as "sexual" is disapproved of. Never mind that you and your partner were engaged in perfectly normal behaviour for people in love. Sex, and anything that some prude might associate with sex, is dirty. You're lucky she didn't get security to remove you!

NoaHall
November 2nd, 2009, 11:01 PM
Hm. But we were doing nothing other than kissing. I don't quite know how she got that to be sex, if that was the case.

Dougie187
November 2nd, 2009, 11:03 PM
Hm. But we were doing nothing other than kissing. I don't quite know how she got that to be sex, if that was the case.

Some people are quick to jump to conclusions. Who knows what 'kissing' would have lead to. I mean, obviously you did, but she didn't, and apparently she was offended by the act of kissing or the thought of what comes next. So she confronted you.

doas777
November 2nd, 2009, 11:04 PM
I live in a country founded by puritans. I just tell em to shove off when I am sure I'm in the right (you most likely were, by my defn). Heck making out in an airport is almost cliche.

forrestcupp
November 2nd, 2009, 11:07 PM
No PDA! For some reason, it makes people uncomfortable, especially if there are kids around.

I think the reason it makes people uncomfortable is because a display of affection is supposed to be an intimate and private event between two people, and you are forcing other people to invade that privacy.

Dougie187
November 2nd, 2009, 11:08 PM
I think the reason it makes people uncomfortable is because a display of affection is supposed to be an intimate and private event between two people, and you are forcing other people to invade that privacy.

+1 and very insightful by the way.

Crunchy the Headcrab
November 2nd, 2009, 11:09 PM
I'm more concerned by the fact that people leave their kids with strangers in an airport. That's what's disturbing to me. Nothing wrong with kissing. Although if you guys were sucking eachother's faces off I can see how that could be disturbing to some people. I wouldn't ask you to stop. I'd expect the damn parents to take care of their kids.

NoaHall
November 2nd, 2009, 11:12 PM
Some people are quick to jump to conclusions. Who knows what 'kissing' would have lead to. I mean, obviously you did, but she didn't, and apparently she was offended by the act of kissing or the thought of what comes next. So she confronted you.

Right, so we start having sex in the middle of a airport? Yep, makes sense now.

Oh, and we weren't sucking each other's faces off.

Crunchy the Headcrab
November 2nd, 2009, 11:13 PM
Right, so we start having sex in the middle of a airport? Yep, makes sense now.
Hey, that's not so far fetched in this day and age.

NoaHall
November 2nd, 2009, 11:14 PM
Hey, that's not so far fetched in this day and age.

Oh, just so you know - I don't live a in a porn-based parallel universe :) hehe.

Crunchy the Headcrab
November 2nd, 2009, 11:17 PM
Like New York :D

steev182
November 2nd, 2009, 11:20 PM
The internet would try to disprove your theory NoaHall...

Although I like doas777's reply, maybe if you let her finish, she would have said '...don't want to let you be so ******* cliche!'

I would say that the airport has loads of emotions running through it with loved ones coming (no, not like that, sickos) and going. There's nothing wrong with a lingering embrace and kiss with the one you love in an airport.

NoaHall
November 2nd, 2009, 11:22 PM
The internet would try to disprove your theory NoaHall...

Although I like doas777's reply, maybe if you let her finish, she would have said '...don't want to let you be so ******* cliche!'

I would say that the airport has loads of emotions running through it with loved ones coming (no, not like that, sickos) and going. There's nothing wrong with a lingering embrace and kiss with the one you love in an airport.

Disprove which theory?


And that's what I thought. It's a fine thing to do.

steev182
November 2nd, 2009, 11:32 PM
That you don't live in a porn based parallel universe of course ;)

NoaHall
November 2nd, 2009, 11:33 PM
That you don't live in a porn based parallel universe of course ;)

Oh hehe :)

Sealbhach
November 2nd, 2009, 11:37 PM
Kissing is harmless enough, but the trouble is it might lead to dancing.

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steev182
November 2nd, 2009, 11:41 PM
Eugh, now that is something I find utterly disgusting! I couldn't stand the film 'Step Up' (although that may be for the 'Fast and Furious with the cars replaced by dancing' storyline and acting in there).

Crunchy the Headcrab
November 2nd, 2009, 11:51 PM
Kissing is harmless enough, but the trouble is it might lead to dancing.

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Haha. Win. :popcorn:

JillSwift
November 2nd, 2009, 11:57 PM
If you ever get close to a human
And human behavior
Be ready to get confused
There's definitely no logic
To human behavior
But yet so irresistible
There's no map
To human behavior
They're terribly moody
Then all of a sudden turn happy
But, oh, to get involved in the exchange
Of human emotions is ever so satisfying
There's no map
And a compass
Wouldn't help at all
Human behavior

--Bjork

hoppipolla
November 3rd, 2009, 12:01 AM
Some people are like that man. She's probably just miserable! heh :)

Or actually considering she worked there, she may well have just been doing what she "felt" was right, you know?

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 12:12 AM
Some people are like that man. She's probably just miserable! heh :)

Or actually considering she worked there, she may well have just been doing what she "felt" was right, you know?

Hehe, I guess.
Well, she was wrong :) Science says so.

schauerlich
November 3rd, 2009, 12:17 AM
I don't think you have a girlfriend. Enjoy your airport.

xuCGC002
November 3rd, 2009, 12:33 AM
Hey, that's not so far fetched in this day and age.

*Wah-wah chicka-chicka waaaaah*

:p:p:p

I could understand what she was getting at- depending on how risqué the nature of the kissing was.

Spike-X
November 3rd, 2009, 12:37 AM
I'd rather my kids see two people being affectionate with each other than being aggressive with each other. I'm sure if the two of you had been having a blazing row instead, she wouldn't have said a word.

oxf
November 3rd, 2009, 12:39 AM
Last Friday, my girlfriend and I were at Heathrow. We were sitting pretty near to a place where youngsters go to be looked after on flights(or something, I'm not sure what it is really). Anyway, we were sitting there, and we were kissing. Then a woman, who worked in the youngster flights thing, came over to us and said with a completely straight face "Could you stop kissing please, as there are children around and we don't want to...". I proceeded to inform her that there were no children around, nor had there been for the time we had sat there, and that seeing healthy, loving relationships are good for children. Now, what I want to know is, what did she mean by "and we don't want to..." and was she serious, or not?

I honestly would have told her to get lost!
But next time make sure you look vary intently at her ID badge, like you are trying to read it. I was once harassed at Heathrow by someone when I was doing absolutely nothing wrong and once I did that they quickly covered up their badge and disapeared.

Crunchy the Headcrab
November 3rd, 2009, 01:01 AM
I honestly would have told her to get lost!
But next time make sure you look vary intently at her ID badge, like you are trying to read it. I was once harassed at Heathrow by someone when I was doing absolutely nothing wrong and once I did that they quickly covered up their badge and disapeared.

Haha. You're my kind of person :D

winotree
November 3rd, 2009, 01:19 AM
So I'm wondering if it had less to do with the children and more to do with her -- maybe she doesn't have anyone to kiss her and seeing the love y'all obviously had for each other made her feel even lonelier than she was. The children were just her excuse. :|

etnlIcarus
November 3rd, 2009, 06:51 AM
I think the reason it makes people uncomfortable is because a display of affection is supposed to be an intimate and private event between two people, and you are forcing other people to invade that privacy.
I don't accept any part of this premise.


PDAs make me pretty uncomfortable: it usually strikes me as insincere histrionic behaviour, from people who really don't have anything worthwhile to express. That said, don't let me stop you; I really wouldn't want to contribute to this defective culture of 'if someone is offended by it, it's wrong/shouldn't be allowed', etc.

wilee-nilee
November 3rd, 2009, 07:41 AM
Last Friday, my girlfriend and I were at Heathrow. We were sitting pretty near to a place where youngsters go to be looked after on flights(or something, I'm not sure what it is really). Anyway, we were sitting there, and we were kissing. Then a woman, who worked in the youngster flights thing, came over to us and said with a completely straight face "Could you stop kissing please, as there are children around and we don't want to...". I proceeded to inform her that there were no children around, nor had there been for the time we had sat there, and that seeing healthy, loving relationships are good for children. Now, what I want to know is, what did she mean by "and we don't want to..." and was she serious, or not?

Get a Room.

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 08:44 AM
I honestly would have told her to get lost!
But next time make sure you look vary intently at her ID badge, like you are trying to read it. I was once harassed at Heathrow by someone when I was doing absolutely nothing wrong and once I did that they quickly covered up their badge and disapeared.

Well, this is the second time I've been offended by someone working at Heathrow. I'll give them one more chance, then it's time for the long, cold, hard revolution my friend.

Bjalf
November 3rd, 2009, 08:51 AM
Oh, and we weren't sucking each other's faces off.

Then you weren't doing it right.

:biggrin:

wilee-nilee
November 3rd, 2009, 09:09 AM
Well, this is the second time I've been offended by someone working at Heathrow. I'll give them one more chance, then it's time for the long, cold, hard revolution my friend.

kind of a self serving sentiment like the first act you were called on. I wasn't there but love is not kissing at the airport in the context of somebody having to call you on it.

winjeel
November 3rd, 2009, 10:05 AM
I know this game.
"Could you stop kissing please, as there are children around and we don't want to..."
...start taking our clothes off
...have a threesome in public
...call the kissing police
...finish this sentence
...make this 'lovers corner'
...have you making more future-customers that would use the children's corner
...

I guess if you two were really going at it, then perhaps I might've said the same. If there wasn't anything too... too much going on, then it's tolerable. I guess if it's the later, then she must've had a bad day. Don't worry about it, as we all have bad days, and some of us are luckier than others not to have bad days too often. I'd feel a little pitty for her, and I'd wonder why isn't she enjoying life as much, and I'd be hoping that I never find myself doing that to a 'healthy couple'.

etnlIcarus
November 3rd, 2009, 02:02 PM
kind of a self serving sentiment like the first act you were called on. I wasn't there but love is not kissing at the airport in the context of somebody having to call you on it.

I can't make heads or tails of either of these sentences. wut?

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 04:39 PM
I can't make heads or tails of either of these sentences. wut?

+1.
I think he's insane. :)

Mornedhel
November 3rd, 2009, 04:52 PM
PDAs make me pretty uncomfortable: it usually strikes me as insincere histrionic behaviour, from people who really don't have anything worthwhile to express.

Uh.

Pardon me for not being a native English speaker, but I associate "PDA" with "Personal Digital Assistant". Would anyone be so kind as to translate that particular meaning of "PDA" ?

Or maybe the guy is just weirded out by smartphones.

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 04:54 PM
Uh.

Pardon me for not being a native English speaker, but I associate "PDA" with "Personal Digital Assistant". Would anyone be so kind as to translate that particular meaning of "PDA" ?

Or maybe the guy is just weirded out by smartphones.

I think it means public display of affection, but I did have to google it.

bit mad
November 3rd, 2009, 05:09 PM
It might be some Politically Correct nonsense, given that some Eastern cultures do find public shows of affection offensively taboo.

pricetech
November 3rd, 2009, 06:03 PM
I'm madly in love with my Wife and she knows it. I will occasionally display my affection for her in public. When our kids were younger it would embarrass them but we never had anyone complain.

Since I wasn't there I can't really say why the lady would have objected. Maybe you were "overdoing it" in her mind. Maybe she was just jealous. Maybe it had something to do with Moon Phases.

Whatever the case, I find humans to be annoying at best.

Swagman
November 3rd, 2009, 06:21 PM
Because she's female.. And a female knows that the way to fire up a females engine is to....

Kiss her !!

She's jealous and oppressed !!


Airport - The Motors

So many destination faces going to so many places
Where the weather is much better
And the food is so much cheaper.
Well I help her with her baggage for her baggage is so heavy
I hear the plane is ready by the gateway to take my love away.
And I can't believe that she really wants to leave me and it's getting me so,
It's getting me so.

Airport -
Airport, you've got a smiling face,
you took the one I love so far away
Fly her away - fly her away - airport.
Airport, you've got a smiling face
You took my lady to another place
Fly her away - fly her away.

The plane is on the move,
And the traces of the love we had in places
Are turning in my mind - how I wish I'd been much stronger
For the wheels are turning faster as I hear the winds are blowing
and I know that she is leaving
On the jet plane way down the runaway.
And I can't believe that she really wants to leave me - and it's
getting me so,
It's getting me so.

Airport -
Airport, you've got a smiling face,...

Airport -
Airport, you've got a smiling face,...

wilee-nilee
November 3rd, 2009, 06:49 PM
+1.
I think he's insane. :)

Just for clarification I am not clinically insane, just a little veklempt. @Nnoah this statement and my answer is pretty straight forward if you step outside the box of entitlement. @noah Well, this is the second time I've been offended by someone working at Heathrow. I'll give them one more chance, then it's time for the long, cold, hard revolution my friend. No information as to the 1st time of being offended, how do we know any of these instances were not acceptable behaviour within a social norm structure. As I said I wasn't there so I don't know the context but your original description of kissing which could be interpreted in the way it was written sounded like a couple of teenagers necking, it is this; I can do what I want without considering the situation and context that makes it self serving. As I see you have plenty of supporters here but don't let that hold you back from reflecting on why you were we called on your actions and why do I need to justify it with excuses such as it's love and isn't this a positive representation to children you don't even know. Your need to have a confirmation on the UF for your actions has a smell of disconnect and a self serving need for justifying what I think you probably realize that this instance was probably unacceptable social behaviour. In the end there is no clear wrong or right here but a consideration for others so I say again get a room.

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 06:53 PM
I wasn't REALLY calling you insane XD

Psst, use paragraphs.

The first time I was offended is unrelated. If you intended to make a point, it didn't happen.

Get a room is such a silly comment. Kissing has very little to do with sex, if you are kissing in public.

schauerlich
November 3rd, 2009, 06:54 PM
Get a room is such a silly comment. Kissing has very little to do with sex, if you are kissing in public.

Still, no one wants to see it. It's called common courtesy.

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 06:56 PM
Still, no one wants to see it. It's called common courtesy.

No one wants to see it? Then they don't have to look. To see healthy, loving relationships is good for a growth of a society, and humans as individuals.

lisati
November 3rd, 2009, 06:57 PM
Should one of us start a new site, www.ubuntubedrooms.org ?????

schauerlich
November 3rd, 2009, 07:00 PM
No one wants to see it? Then they don't have to look.
That argument might be valid if you were doing it in a less conspicuous place.


To see healthy, loving relationships is good for a growth of a society, and humans as individuals.Snogging in an airport isn't an example of a healthy loving relationship which will help society grow, it's just two horny kids going at it.

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 07:01 PM
That argument might be valid if you were doing it in a less conspicuous place.

Snogging in an airport isn't an example of a healthy loving relationship which will help society grow, it's just two horny kids going at it.

We were not "going at it", and there's no other place to do it. You're just trolling, so farewell.

schauerlich
November 3rd, 2009, 07:06 PM
We were not "going at it", and there's no other place to do it.
Maybe you could have put off the makeout session, then?


You're just trolling, so farewell.
I'm not trolling, I'm EDavidBurg. You see?

subdivision
November 3rd, 2009, 07:08 PM
No one wants to see it? Then they don't have to look. To see healthy, loving relationships is good for a growth of a society, and humans as individuals.

Haha, how do I get to the fantasy land you're living in?

NoaHall
November 3rd, 2009, 07:11 PM
Haha, how do I get to the fantasy land you're living in?

What fantasy land? It's been well established among everyone who knows anything about the matter that seeing healthy loving relationships are good for society.

KiwiNZ
November 3rd, 2009, 07:13 PM
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